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Ashley is a career and business coach. She is also a keynote speaker empowering people in their twenties and thirties, around the world to discover their authentic careers and land more job offers.
Ashley wanted to become a spy and fight terrorism. She was living in France, and was studying when she came across a man who was hitting his wife across the face.
That was the thinking moment for her which defined her studies onto national government securities. Since that day she always wanted to protect people and thought national security is the best niche towards that.
Based on that life event she wanted to become an operative in the central intelligence agency. She got a masters degree in Department of War at Kings College of London. She thought that being interested in foreign affairs helped her as being a powerful coach.
To her, if you want to guide someone else it’s very important to know that what you are passionate about yourself. After coming back from the grad school she realized that she has to engage with people to put her passion into reality. She thinks clarity always comes from engagement, so put her out there for people.
At 23 years of age she landed a position in DC in the same area and then it became clear to her the difference between passion and being interested in.
When asked that is it essential to go to a college or university for being in business, Ashley said that it depends on the personality type. There are many successful people who hadn’t attended college, there are many people who started a company without going to college and they are thriving and are successful. She thinks that everyone needs to be someone, and it can only be when someone is a self-starter.
But if/when someone is not a self-starter then going to college is a necessary nowadays, because having a degree is a social requisite for being in the work place. There are people who haven’t completed their degree but they aren’t less than an entrepreneur.
So for her, if she has a business coach without a degree it doesn’t matter to her. But if there’s someone who doesn’t have a degree but have expertise then she says she would choose them for their skills.
Ashley thinks that people choose to stay in a certain same situation even though sometimes they feel that it’s not for them is because of their fear of change. She explains two pieces of a puzzle when it comes to making a change.
1- Fear of change / Fear of not to experience that
2- The misery that someone feels in their current situation
She believes in the quote, “most people live their lives in a state of desperation.”
Most people aren’t going to make a change unless they’re so miserable that they don’t even care what the unknown looks like. But for others, she feels that it’s different. Lot of successful people doesn’t want to be in their comfortable state, because they know that the person they want to become is outside their comfort zone. However people having fear don’t know what their life is going to look like in the future.
When asked that, is there a difference between man and woman on how they approach the fear of change Ashley suggested that men are more assertive than women. But she also thinks that its biology and it’s natural. That gives men a certain sense of opportunity.
She thinks it’s unbelievable to see that how many men are fearless when it’s time to stand up for themselves, negotiating, creating opportunities versus women. She thinks that lot of people/women does have clarity but actually what they lack is believe in themselves. She has clients working in their twenties and thirties who come to look for finding their purpose.
But it’s magical to her that she can figure out really quick that what they really want to do with their lives, and as a matter of fact it’s always there. She thinks that people should grow up based on an idea of following your passion. The idea of following your passion is always fascinate her. A lot of people have passions but they don’t have market for it. She thinks that you can always create market for everything but at the end of the day lot of people are afraid of doing what they feel passionate about.
To Ashley the key in a successful networking experience for an entrepreneur is to going into networking without expecting any kind of return or favor.
She thinks that expectations in general put you into a victim mentality. She feels that people should go into networking with a positive feeling of being in service without having any expectations.
For her the idea of competition is silly because she thinks that everyone has their own area of expertise and they shall share clients with each other. She believes in sharing and being in service to others.
She has an abundant mindset, she thinks that opportunity is everywhere. Regarding negotiation, Ashley has this mentality that negotiation should be there to serve both parties. It doesn’t have to be the way that someone has to win.
Ashley creates a column online to inspire her readers and thinks that the best way of marketing is to writing an effective content and serving your audience with it.
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